The Feeling Of Having No One Special
LonelinessClarity App
Reel after reel. Youtube shorts. Reaction video. ASMR. Podcast. Silly podcast. Lifestyle podcast. ‘Seemingly intelligent’ podcast. One episode of a sitcom. Again reels. Scroll. Scroll. Click. Click. So many visuals, people, conversations, everything- within a screen. None with me. I sit back in a dark room with eyes stuck to the screen and to those people having other people to talk to. I keep my phone away, lie down and extend my arms in an empty bed curling up on it with the awareness of an empty life. How I wish I had someone special in my life! I get to thinking –“why do I have that overpowering desire day in and day out and what can be done about it?” So I decided to get Clarity.
Loneliness and Distractions
Life has become a strange series of distractions. The copious amount of books being written, newspapers being published, videos being made and amusement content being churned out point to a world which is in great need of distraction- an escape from reality, a constant source of being involved in something beyond the self.
J. Krishnamurti, J. Krishnamurti, a great thinker recognizes this phenomenon as a form of intense boredom. A sense of dissatisfaction with self. If we are not in a relationship, we crave a partner. In relationship, we seek constant attention. We just have the overpowering need to distract ourselves from our inner ‘loneliness’, ‘drudgery’ and ‘dullness’ and focus on something or someone else. Therefore most people are lonely and in a search of someone else. So lonely that they build an illusion in their mind that they are such because they have no one special for them. While in reality, they are lost and dissatisfied with themselves.
The constant craving of having someone special
People have so many wishes and goals in their life. We all aspire to a perfect life with a perfect life partner- someone to be there for us through thick and thin and love us no matter what. People turn to organizations, institutions, schools of thought, religion, sex, marriage, creation of a family, entertainment etc. to feel less lonely in life. What they don’t realize is that loneliness is a constant, if not worked upon.
In a constantly distracted world, most of us don’t find the time to form deeper and more meaningful relationship with each other. We lack acceptance of flaws and wish for perfection in others to save ourselves from all sorts of inconveniences. We don’t have the patience to wait for the right person.
When you have no one to call ‘your person’, you resort to blaming yourself or have self-worth issues. You reassess your height, weight, colour etc. to be able to have someone special in your life. In certain cases, people get so scared of rejection, that isolation becomes their defence mechanism. We need to open our arms to new friendships and good relationship that may come our way. But that is not the solution to the problem of feeling lonely or having no one special.
Be your special person
We have to understand and acknowledge our feeling before we resolve them or do something about them. The feeling of having no one special is a very understandable and common emotion. But the problem is deeper than that.
Treat your loneliness as an opportunity to reconnect with the self and other people around you. Pay attention to people that are around you and try to form healthy and loving friendships with them. Stay connected with family members and relatives and former batch mates.
Also, do a small activity often- go for a walk outside, without the phone and the earphones. Notice the trees, flowers and leaves. Concentrate on the wind and the path you tread. Be alone with yourself and find peace within. Try and enjoy your own company with minimalistic distractions. Be comfortable with being alone. Accept that love will come when it has to and your unease, impatience and cravings cannot do anything for it.
Everything in life comes in its own time, even if it is the love of our life. If someone has to come into your life, they must come for who you are. You must not invite people into your life only because you feel a void, but because you want to extend yourself. Love should act as an extension of you and not be employed to fill empty spaces that you are incapable to fill.
The Clarity App does not specifically focus on fighting loneliness, but it offers resources and support for individuals who may be experiencing loneliness as a result of their mental health challenges. The app provides a range of features that can help individuals connect with others and reduce feeling of isolation. Clarity App offers a community forum where users can connect with other listeners who experienced similar mental health challenges.
The Feeling Of Having No One Special
Loneliness
Reel after reel. Youtube shorts. Reaction video. ASMR. Podcast. Silly podcast. Lifestyle podcast. ‘Seemingly intelligent’ podcast. One episode of a sitcom. Again reels. Scroll. Scroll. Click. Click. So many visuals, people, conversations, everything- within a screen. None with me. I sit back in a dark room with eyes stuck to the screen and to those people having other people to talk to. I keep my phone away, lie down and extend my arms in an empty bed curling up on it with the awareness of an empty life. How I wish I had someone special in my life! I get to thinking –“why do I have that overpowering desire day in and day out and what can be done about it?” So I decided to get Clarity.
Loneliness and Distractions
Life has become a strange series of distractions. The copious amount of books being written, newspapers being published, videos being made and amusement content being churned out point to a world which is in great need of distraction- an escape from reality, a constant source of being involved in something beyond the self.
J. Krishnamurti, J. Krishnamurti, a great thinker recognizes this phenomenon as a form of intense boredom. A sense of dissatisfaction with self. If we are not in a relationship, we crave a partner. In relationship, we seek constant attention. We just have the overpowering need to distract ourselves from our inner ‘loneliness’, ‘drudgery’ and ‘dullness’ and focus on something or someone else. Therefore most people are lonely and in a search of someone else. So lonely that they build an illusion in their mind that they are such because they have no one special for them. While in reality, they are lost and dissatisfied with themselves.
The constant craving of having someone special
People have so many wishes and goals in their life. We all aspire to a perfect life with a perfect life partner- someone to be there for us through thick and thin and love us no matter what. People turn to organizations, institutions, schools of thought, religion, sex, marriage, creation of a family, entertainment etc. to feel less lonely in life. What they don’t realize is that loneliness is a constant, if not worked upon.
In a constantly distracted world, most of us don’t find the time to form deeper and more meaningful relationship with each other. We lack acceptance of flaws and wish for perfection in others to save ourselves from all sorts of inconveniences. We don’t have the patience to wait for the right person.
When you have no one to call ‘your person’, you resort to blaming yourself or have self-worth issues. You reassess your height, weight, colour etc. to be able to have someone special in your life. In certain cases, people get so scared of rejection, that isolation becomes their defence mechanism. We need to open our arms to new friendships and good relationship that may come our way. But that is not the solution to the problem of feeling lonely or having no one special.
Be your special person
We have to understand and acknowledge our feeling before we resolve them or do something about them. The feeling of having no one special is a very understandable and common emotion. But the problem is deeper than that.
Treat your loneliness as an opportunity to reconnect with the self and other people around you. Pay attention to people that are around you and try to form healthy and loving friendships with them. Stay connected with family members and relatives and former batch mates.
Also, do a small activity often- go for a walk outside, without the phone and the earphones. Notice the trees, flowers and leaves. Concentrate on the wind and the path you tread. Be alone with yourself and find peace within. Try and enjoy your own company with minimalistic distractions. Be comfortable with being alone. Accept that love will come when it has to and your unease, impatience and cravings cannot do anything for it.
Everything in life comes in its own time, even if it is the love of our life. If someone has to come into your life, they must come for who you are. You must not invite people into your life only because you feel a void, but because you want to extend yourself. Love should act as an extension of you and not be employed to fill empty spaces that you are incapable to fill.
The Clarity App does not specifically focus on fighting loneliness, but it offers resources and support for individuals who may be experiencing loneliness as a result of their mental health challenges. The app provides a range of features that can help individuals connect with others and reduce feeling of isolation. Clarity App offers a community forum where users can connect with other listeners who experienced similar mental health challenges.
